Dying, everyone is doing it!

Over the holidays I lost a few friends and attended their funerals. 

…and like everything else in my life I asked the questions?  Could we be doing this better?

I have yet to meet the person that figured out how to live forever.  So consider this…if you were born…you are gonna die!

Why not think about how you want to go out.  Do you want all your friends and family to meet at the local church (that you may or may not have attended) or a funeral home and have someone talk about you, talk about your salvation along with everyone else’s in the room.

Why do we mourn others deaths?  

What are your wishes?  

Do you wish for people to be sad at your funeral?  

Is it the role of your funeral to introduce everyone to religion? 

It appears to me that a great deal of folks don’t want to deal with the planning of their own funeral.  

So are you planning to leave that responsibility to someone else?  Really? 

Most seem to go with the boiler plate ceremony where your name is placed in the program and you or your family pick out a few hymns and one of your kids or friends tells sad stories.  We are all then asked to consider our own salvation and pray to whatever or whoever’s religion is represented at the funeral.

Consider this, if it rains on the day of your funeral, 60% of the people won’t show. 

People that are compelled to attend a funeral are most likely linked significantly to the person that has recently passed away.

I think a funeral should be as unique as the person that passed away.  It ought to be an expression of that person’s life or what they lived for. 

Why give up the last opportunity to go out with a bang or with some class!  Why not plan something different and memorable now.  Give your survivors a real memory and an imprint of your life.  Celebrate a life well lived! 

I would ask that you at least consider the road less traveled and don’t be a “me too” and do what other's think you should.   This world needs a little shaking up and changing the way funerals/celebrations are conducted could be just what’s needed!

What say you? 

NobleOne

We need to retreat in order to advance!

I enjoy doing things on my own however, I have found that some of the big stuff requires more than me!

This weekend I am preparing to travel south in order to spend time with a dozen folks that are willing to plan for the future.  Not an easy task!

Big ideas, past issues, leadership, membership, survival ship all get thrown about.

It all starts out with a big meal (and a few libations) speeches are made and testimonies are prevalent.  Perhaps this year we might write some of it down or  not!

The next day we get down to business...

Retreating to the Outer Banks allows us to back away from day to day and focus on a year.  The return on investment is…

            We understand next steps and how they will be measured

            Our message is tell-able and share-able

            Our budget matches our intentions

        Priceless!  

If you are having trouble advancing perhaps it’s time to retreat!  This world does not allow anyone a rocket ride!  It’s all accomplished with “baby steps.” 

Five steps forward /Five steps back/Five steps forward/Five steps back/Five steps forward/41/2 steps back----hooray!

Enjoy each day and understand your path; however take it one step at a time!

NobleOne

Whoa 20 years ago...

A dozen guys met at my house on 43^rd street  in 1995 and decided to attempt to make a difference!

After my son Matt made a decision to break all odds and survive with a 2% chance of living the next miracle would be to convince a few of my closest friends to change our world.

It was Joe Thatcher that suggested we start with a Halloween Party, actually one he had planned for himself.

RHVB (Robin Hoods of Virginia Beach) started that night and later became all that we are today!

There was no grand plan, only to start out with good intentions and act on them one at a time.

…now 20 years later we are still working on one good intention at a time however possessing an infrastructure of amazing folks that have found common ground and combined purpose.

Have you ever had something on your mind that you just couldn't shake?  Thoughts that took many different shapes and sizes however were all connected? 

I knew 20 years ago that this needed to take place however I had no guidance to the how and the what, I only knew the why! 

Today the fabric of who I am has been seamed together over these 20 years.  

Knowing you are pursuing what you feel you were put on this earth to do is a powerful thing.

I’m confident the next 20 years will be awesome however I will take them one at a time!

1995 - 2015 

One awesome "dash" 

NobleOne

In 2015 I resolve to...

It’s already started… the commercials, Facebook posts, the gym ads and promises to lose 10 lbs in a week!

How ‘bout you?  Is this your year?  Will it be different that the previous 50? (less or more)  

True changes are rare and typically require a life changing moment i.e. heart attack, divorce, marriage, or rock bottom!

 Pick one or add one!

Here are the stats...

1) About 8% of people are successful in achieving their new years resolutions 

2) 25% of those who make them don’t even make it past the first week

3) 34% of those resolutions are related to money

It is however fun to think about change and I think it is wonderful to watch someone else “step up” and “go big.”

As I approach 2015 I am considering these things…

Am I happy?  Is my family happy?  (in that order) What resources are needed to improve on those first two goals? 

Earn the right every day to continue to lead The Noblemen and step away when I don’t!

Pay my bills or readjust my priorities.

Live healthy today and do my best to achieve it tomorrow.

Be thankful for my blessings and pay them forward whenever the opportunity presents itself.

Celebrate the connection to divinity and continue to “pay attention” for inspiration.

Dream Big!

My best to all of you and may you continue to enjoy your path in life.

NobleOne